My mom took me into a police station this Friday. when my mom is angry she turns into nuts! She took me there because she got really angry that she and my father went to pick me up at Taipei Main Station and I thought she told me to take the MRT, and she thought I went off running away with a boy, but no I didn't, and I was really angry that she said she saw me running toward the stairs ( which lead me to the MRT) as soon as I left the building (my cram school) and a boy was chasing after me, whereas I know I didn't cause I stop in front of the building to see if Sherry is waiting for me there, and it even took me about 5 minutes to text her and trying to make sure she had already gone away. I'm so pissed off that my mom can't even recognize her own daughter.(this isn't the first time)
She said if I wanted to go home myself I have to try contacting her, which I did called her, but she left her cellphone at home, and I thought she answered it and said I can take the MRT. *Taipei Main Station is a noisy place so I didn't hear it clearly, I think the only voice that came out of her phone was the voicemail. (why I called her is because I'm scared that my father is driving the car and my mom barely came to pick me up with dad, there's only been two times) When I got onto the MRT I text them again just to make sure they know I'm on the MRT, and my dad called me on the phone, and first I thought was crap, my father did drove his car here, so I answered without thinking for a minute I'm on the MRT already.
They claim that I have communication problem and was really angry with me, but what they were probably really angry about me was running off with a boy(I told them I didn't they didn't believe me) or they claimed that I planned to run away from them and went for the GASHAPON. (which I did but I didn't meant to run away from them)We went to the police station while I was crying, she expected the polices take notes about this, and wanted me to be awkward in front of other people. But the police asked her 3 times why did we come here, she was acting crazy in front of them saying what I had done 3 times and claimed that was communicating problem and I meant to leave them there. The cops were like "Hey, hey, hey cool down let's talk outside the station." At first they were on my mom's side, but after I told them my mom was attempting to kick me outside the house for this, their attitude changed. "Your mom was kidding! And she was worried about you." "No you don't understand, she threw my sister's backpack out the window one time to kick her out."(I remember another time she locked my sister outside the door too) and the police officers were shocked. "Let me talk to your mom alone." After talking to her the cops told me not to cry anymore and they said my mom promised them not to blame me or scream at me anymore, I couldn't describe the feeling I felt, I was crying on the outside, but happy on the inside, for the first time in forever, I achieved a goal I always wanted to achieve since I was in elementary school grade 3, she finally noticed she was wrong, she had always been wrong she never try to listen to me. (this is why we have communication problems, right?)
I think she wouldn't take any of her children to the police station again. This is the second time she went there, she was with my younger sister last time, because my sister didn't do well on the exam and screamed back at mom while Mom was yelling at her.
I was really both grateful and sorry to the cops and I really like how it turned out in the end of this fight. I fought back, and didn't keep silent like i usually does.
Study questions
1. Where is Jason going to attend school in January? What will make this a “shocking” experience for him? What should be his new baseball team?
/1/ "Jason is off to Toronto, Ontario, Canada in January."
/2/ Enjoying the hockey season there might be a shocking experience for
him.
/3/ Fortunately, he probably get to enjoy the game played by the Toronto Blue
Jays.
3. What did Mr. Maher do to qualify for his “free breakfast” on this holiday?
To let his son Patrick, who is a sergeant now, show his military ID card.4. Why are Collen (the mother) and Echo (the daughter) in Ireland at this time?
Echo who is working, just has the occasional day off. She was looking forward to the ice skating shows.
Dear Doris,
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that you had this "episode' with your Mother, and I'm also sorry that I could not reply to you any sooner.
Now you know. Mother's worry. They worry a lot. They especially worry about their 16 year old daughters. I think that one reason why they worry is that they are afraid that that their daughters will do something that they either did, or at least thought about doing when they were that age.
This is the good news and the bad news about cell phones. Obviously, your mother is so worried that she wants to know where you are and what your are doing practically every minute that you are out of her sight. The cell phone lets her do that, so if she can't contact you on your phone, she is going to go from "worrying" into a state of panic and hysteria. I'm sure that that was what was happening when she dragged you into the police station. I'm also sure that the police were just as embarrassed and uncomfortable with the whole situation as you were.
If you didn't know this before, you also probably learned that your mother, who doesn't like to be corrected or told that she's wrong even under normal circumstances, is not even going to hear you when she is in one of these "panic and hysteria" moods. Your father has probably learned this by now, so you might want to talk to him about it. Usually, the best thing to do is to understand that she's not really thinking at all. She's just ranting. The best thing to do is to stay there, stay calm, say as little as possible, and don't raise your voice. Shouting at her, or attempting to discuss something, is just going to make the situation worse.
After she has calmed down, its best not to discuss the issue or her behavior ever again. She won't what to discuss it, and will say that its your fault the she sometimes seems to go a little crazy. It will appear as though you are just trying to start another fight.
Don't think that your mother is the only mother on the planet who has these fits of hysteria and rages. It's a lot more common than you would believe. It seems to be a fact of life that mothers had heated arguments with their teen-aged daughters.
For now, we have to calm the situation a little. Speak to her very respectfully. Always let her know where you will be going, and who you will be with, and what time you expect to return. Try to introduce her to some of your friends, so that when you say that "I'm going with Sherry", she will know who you're talking about. At this point, it's probably not a good idea to tell her that you're going anywhere by yourself with a boy. It may take a while to get her ready for that.
I hope this helps. Please remember to stay calm, and that you're not the first girl in the world to have a hysterical mother.
Tim
Dear Doris,
ReplyDeleteHow are thing with your Mother?
Good job on "The Paper Bag Princess"!
Tim
Dear Tim,
ReplyDeleteShe apologized to me after and she hugged me, I think she knew she did something wrong back then. Everythings back to normal now. You told me to be calm but it's hard when I'm on monthly period...I think I only get angry when it comes, cause I don't usually get angry easily.
Doris